Can daughters visit graves to pay respect to their ancestors during the Qingming Festival in 2019? What should women pay attention to when visiting graves to pay respect to their ancestors?
Introduction: Qingming Festival is a very important traditional festival, and visiting graves on Qingming Festival is one of the important customs. However, not everyone can go to the graves on Qingming Festival. So, can daughters go to the graves to worship their ancestors on Qingming Festival in 2019? What should daughters pay attention to when going to the graves to worship their ancestors? For more details about the 2019 lunar calendar for March, please visit Mr. Shui Mo's website for consultation!Can my daughter visit the ancestral graves to pay homage to her ancestors during the Qingming Festival in 2019?Married or not, you can visit the graves : The traditional concept is more due to the idea of male superiority and female inferiority, so there are many opinions about daughters visiting the graves. But now it is emphasized that having a boy or a girl is the same, and daughters are as important as sons. There are also many families with only daughters, so this concept has been changing.As long as the parents and elders do not favor sons over daughters, then naturally daughters can visit the graves regardless of whether they are married or not. Unmarried daughters cannot visit the graves of their deceased relatives: In some villages in southwestern and central-southern Shandong, unmarried daughters cannot visit the graves of their deceased relatives to pay homage. This is even a clan rule that cannot be violated. If there is no son in the family, the nephews or nephews from the next room will do it instead. This is because it is believed that a daughter is not a member of the family, so she cannot visit the graves at her parents' home. After she gets married, she becomes a member of the husband's family and can visit the graves at her husband's home. Married daughters cannot visit the graves : In some places, it is believed that a married daughter belongs to another family. If there is a son in the family, the people in her parents' family do not want her to return to visit the graves, for fear that others will say that there is no one in her mother's house. Only families without sons can allow a girl to return to her parents' home to visit the graves. Some people think that after a daughter gets married, she should not sweep her parents’ ancestral graves, otherwise she will take away the feng shui of her parents’ home. According to traditional sayings, to put it simply, a married woman belongs to her husband's family and will not and cannot sweep other people's graves. It is impossible for her to be buried in her parents' land a hundred years later. This idea is the widespread belief that "daughters are not capable of passing on descendants." Only the names of sons and daughters-in-law can be engraved on the ancestor's tombstone. The daughter's name is generally not engraved on the tombstone of her natal ancestors. In some places this custom continues to this day. What should women pay attention to when visiting ancestral graves?1. When a new bride or a newborn baby goes to visit the graves, she must not wear plain clothes. She must wear festive clothes, at least a red dress and an ornament.One is to announce good news, so that the ancestors can see the family grow and have more children; the other is to ward off evil spirits, so that the surrounding wandering ghosts will not harm them. It is these festive colors that add a different meaning to the tomb-sweeping ceremony on Qingming Festival, and also symbolize the continuation of life and the inheritance of incense. 2. Families with a new daughter-in-law or a newborn baby must take the new daughter-in-law and the mother who just gave birth to a child and their child to visit the graves together during the Qingming Festival of that year. First of all, it means acknowledging one's ancestry, and secondly, it is also to comfort the ancestors: the family has grown and there are new members! If such a family goes to the grave to sweep the tomb, they should set off firecrackers, and in the curling smoke of the firecrackers, the newlyweds should kowtow and pay their respects in front of the grave, and the children should be held by the adults while paying their respects, saying "Dad (Mom), your daughter-in-law (granddaughter-in-law) pays her respects to you!" Of course, how to address them will vary according to the identity and seniority of the ancestors. 3. Pregnant women and women who are menstruating are not allowed to visit the graves; 4. Women who are weak or sick cannot visit graves. If they must go, they must wear jade or jade Buddha amulets. 5. A woman who is not officially married but is just a girlfriend cannot accompany her boyfriend to visit the graves; 6. Some places also stipulate that women whose husbands have died within three years are not allowed to visit the graves. Steps for visiting graves during Qingming Festival(a) Burning incense1. First, light three incense sticks. Many people may not be able to find the graves of their ancestors, such as the grave of their great-grandfather. How do they burn incense? For the first stick of incense, if your surname is Wang, then you can say that all the ancestors of the Wang family have received incense and come to offer sacrifices. The entire surname has been recorded throughout the dynasties. The second incense stick is the main incense. If you are offering sacrifice to your grandparents, you can say "Grandpa and grandma, today is your festival, we respectfully invite you to come and enjoy the sacrifice." The third stick of incense starts the celebration on behalf of the family members. If many of my grandchildren and sons are away and don't come back, I should say that they are very busy at work and really can't come. Don't be surprised and I will take their place. You can mention the names of the people who are to be worshipped, and pray to their ancestors to bless them with smooth work, unobstructed roads, and peace throughout the four seasons. 2. How to insert incense. Don't light the three incense sticks together, light them one by one. When inserting incense, use your left hand, from right to left. For those of us who are alive, the left is superior, and for those who have passed away, the right is superior. We use our left hand to insert the needle to show our respect for them as they are our elders; inserting the needle from right to left is to follow the rules. 3. Kneel down to repay a favor. After offering the incense, you must kneel down. If you don’t kneel down, it will not be enough to repay the gratitude, because this is where you came from. Don't say that your pants are dirty from kneeling. Dirty pants are easy to wash, but a dirty heart and ungrateful behavior can never be washed clean. (2) Fruits and cakes (3) Burning paper I started burning paper very respectfully, thinking about all the kindness of my ancestors. (IV) Clean environment. Clean up the weeds and dirt around the cemetery. Take away all the plastic bags and other things you took with you when you leave. Many people throw garbage everywhere when they visit their ancestors’ graves. That is the home of their ancestors. If someone wants to mess up your home like that, you would be angry. You must know that if we behave improperly at our ancestral graves, we will bring disaster upon ourselves. Things women should pay attention to when visiting graves. (5) Handling of sacrificial offerings. After offering fruits and pastries, just pinch a little residue with your fingers and sprinkle it in front of the grave. Do not throw them on the cemetery at will, as this is considered a waste and a loss of blessings. After offering fruits and pastries to ancestors, it is best to share them. If there are many people, everyone can take some back home. Fortunes in life can be good or bad, and calculating the direction of your fortune in advance can help you nip problems in the bud, reverse unfavorable situations, and make your life smoother and brighter. To calculate your life fortune over the next ten years, please click on the [Premium Calculation] button below for accurate calculation. I wish you all the best in your life! |
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