Can I go back to my parents’ home on New Year’s Eve? Which day during the Chinese New Year can I go back to my parents’ home?

Can I go back to my parents’ home on New Year’s Eve? Which day during the Chinese New Year can I go back to my parents’ home?
There is a folk saying that married people cannot go back to their parents’ home on New Year’s Eve. So can they go back to their parents’ home on New Year’s Eve? Which day can I go back to my parents’ home to pay New Year’s greetings? So if you want to know more about the 2019 Chinese New Year, then continue to wander in the 2019 Chinese New Year special topic on Shuimoxiansheng.com!

Can I go back to my parents’ home on New Year’s Eve?

The return of a married daughter to her parents' home was also called "Guining" in ancient China.
In China, many places have the custom of "not returning to one's parents' home on New Year's Eve". When talking about this custom, we have to dig from the root. In the past, Chinese women had a low status, and after a girl got married, she belonged to the man’s family. Therefore, on a day like New Year’s Eve when families reunite, it was naturally inconvenient for an outsider to participate. Even if the parents missed their daughters, they could only endure this rule. In fact, when it comes down to it, the root of these bad habits comes from the discrimination against women in feudal society, which is really unacceptable in modern society. This impact has been profound until now, especially in many rural areas where issues such as marriage and childbirth are particularly evident.
From a traditional perspective, you cannot go back to your parents’ home on New Year’s Eve, but now many people have downplayed this custom, so there are not many restrictions on going back to your parents’ home on New Year’s Eve.

When can I go back to my parents' home during the Chinese New Year? What are the customs?

The current folk saying is that on the second day of the Lunar New Year, married daughters must return to their parents' home and their husbands must go with them, so it is commonly known as the Day to Welcoming the Son-in-Law. When going home, one should bring gifts with him, which is called "dai shou" or "ban shou".
1. On the day of the food festival , when the girl returns home, if there is a nephew at home, the aunt has to pay for the New Year's money again, even though she has already given it on the first day, but this time the meaning is different. The Chaoshan people call this ancient traditional custom "eating day and night". As the name suggests, it is just lunch and the daughter must rush back to her husband's house before dinner.
2. In Chaozhou custom, a new bride returns to her parents' home "returning to the house", which was called "returning to the parents' home" in ancient times. It happens three times in a row, so there is a saying of "first returning to the house" (three days after marriage), "second returning to the house" (twelve days after marriage), and "third returning to the house" (a full month after marriage). The first return to the house can be made on three days, twelfth days or on a full moon.
When returning home for the first time, one is not allowed to stay overnight at one's parents' home. One has to return after lunch and before the smoke from the cooking fires appears. You can stay in Erfancuo for one or two days (you cannot stay overnight in Erfancuo in Chao'an). You can live in the Sanfancuo for ten days or half a month, as long as you discuss it with your husband's family. The first and second times of returning to the house are usually discussed in advance and brought back by the bride's brothers. The third return to the house is usually made by the bride alone or accompanied by the groom.
3. Eat sweet eggs When the groom visits his parents-in-law for the first time, he must bring three animals as gifts. The parents-in-law will let their son-in-law "eat sweet eggs" and set up a banquet to entertain him. The son-in-law returns home on the same day after the meal, leaving his wife at her parents' home. He will pick up the bride on the agreed date or have her brothers send her back. However, most of the customs are now simplified. After the groom welcomes the bride into the house, he immediately returns home with the bride, then goes out for a walk and then goes to the new city for a second return home. After the wedding, everything goes back to normal when the bride returns to her parents' home.

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