Can’t I go back to my parents’ home on New Year’s Eve? Which day of the New Year should I go back to?
In traditional Chinese culture, going back to one’s parents’ home is also called “returning home”. So, can’t we go back to our parents’ home on New Year’s Eve? When can I go back to my parents' home? New Year, New Atmosphere. If you want to know more about the Lunar New Year, please continue to pay attention to the 2019 Spring Festival special article exclusively presented to you by Shuimoxiansheng.com!Can’t I go back to my parents’ home on New Year’s Eve?According to folk tradition, a woman cannot spend New Year's Eve at her parents' home after marriage. According to the traditional Chinese understanding of family composition, when a woman gets married, she immediately becomes a formal member of the man's family. My former mother’s family has become just “relatives” to me. For example, in the past, a woman with the surname Li who married into the Zhang family was called "Zhang Li", which means this. The original surname "Li" became the secondary one. Once a woman officially becomes a member of the man's family, she can no longer be too casual when visiting her "relatives" home. What’s more, New Year’s Eve is the day when the family reunites.Of course, this statement comes from the feudal society's unequal view of women. There is no such constraint in modern society. It is okay to go back to your parents' home on New Year's Eve. It depends on personal freedom . Especially for those who live in cities, they don’t live with their parents-in-law or their own parents. But the key point is that people's mindsets have changed completely, which is the most important thing. On which day of the Lunar New Year can I go back to my parents’ home? What are the customs of returning to your parents’ home?The current folk saying is that on the second day of the Lunar New Year, married daughters must return to their parents' home and their husbands must go with them, so it is commonly known as the Day to Welcoming the Son-in-Law. When going home, one should bring gifts with him, which is called "dai shou" or "ban shou".1. On the day of the food festival , when the girl returns home, if there is a nephew at home, the aunt has to pay for the New Year's money again, even though she has already given it on the first day, but this time the meaning is different. The Chaoshan people call this ancient traditional custom "eating day and night". As the name suggests, it is just lunch and the daughter must rush back to her husband's house before dinner. 2. In Chaozhou custom, a new bride returns to her parents' home "returning to the house", which was called "returning to the parents' home" in ancient times. It happens three times in a row, so there is a saying of "first returning to the house" (three days after marriage), "second returning to the house" (twelve days after marriage), and "third returning to the house" (a full month after marriage). The first return to the house can be made on three days, twelfth days or on a full moon. When returning home for the first time, one is not allowed to stay overnight at one's parents' home. One has to return after lunch and before the smoke from the cooking fires appears. You can stay in Erfancuo for one or two days (you cannot stay overnight in Erfancuo in Chao'an). You can live in the Sanfancuo for ten days or half a month, as long as you discuss it with your husband's family. The first and second times of returning to the house are usually discussed in advance and brought back by the bride's brothers. The third return to the house is usually made by the bride alone or accompanied by the groom. 3. Eat sweet eggs When the groom visits his parents-in-law for the first time, he must bring three animals as gifts. The parents-in-law will let their son-in-law "eat sweet eggs" and set up a banquet to entertain him. The son-in-law returns home on the same day after the meal, leaving his wife at her parents' home. He will pick up the bride on the agreed date or have her brothers send her back. However, most of the customs are now simplified. After the groom welcomes the bride into the house, he immediately returns home with the bride, then goes out for a walk and then goes to the new city for a second return home. After the wedding, everything goes back to normal when the bride returns to her parents' home. |
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