Is it true that you shouldn’t get engaged in the twelfth lunar month? Where does this saying come from?

Is it true that you shouldn’t get engaged in the twelfth lunar month? Where does this saying come from?
People say that people don’t get married in the first month of the lunar calendar and don’t get engaged in the twelfth month. Is this true? Where did this saying come from? Let’s find out together. The twelfth month of the lunar calendar is commonly known as "La Yue" among the people. If you want to know more about the twelfth month of the lunar calendar in 2018, please visit Mr. Shui Mo’s website!

Where did the saying of not getting engaged in the twelfth lunar month come from?

You can’t get married in the first month of the lunar calendar, and you can’t get engaged in the twelfth month of the lunar calendar, otherwise the couple cannot live together until old age. Marriages are seldom held in the first month of the lunar calendar, and engagements are seldom held in the twelfth month, because marrying a daughter-in-law in the first month will bring trouble to the parents-in-law, while getting engaged in the twelfth month will bring misfortune to the husband's family. Hence, there is a proverb: "Don't marry in the first month, and don't get engaged in the twelfth month." Therefore, in ancient times, few people would get engaged in the twelfth month of the lunar calendar. However, people nowadays have long since abandoned ancient customs. As long as two people meet the conditions for marriage and discuss with their families, they can go to get a marriage certificate at any time. There are also many young people who say that they got married in the first month of the lunar calendar, and warn others that if they feel it is not good, they can specifically choose a day that they think is a good day.

Is there any other explanation for not getting married in the twelfth lunar month?

Different regions have different local requirements. In the southern region, it is believed that the period after the 23rd day of the twelfth lunar month and even around the New Year is the time when the gods ascend to heaven, and this period is very suitable for weddings.

Is it better to get engaged at noon or at night?

Engagement, we can have lunch or dinner. But it also depends on your local traditions and the scale of the engagement. If the scale is small, with only 2 or 3 tables, and only immediate family members and very close friends attend, then lunch or dinner will be fine. If the group is larger, with more than 5 tables, then lunch will be required. Because if there are too many people, we have to consider other people's homes, and it is not as convenient at night as during the day. The next thing is to consider local traditions and whether you should conduct the engagement ceremony according to local traditions. This is very important. I know, some are simple, just have a meal and be done with it. But some are very complicated. First you go to the house and sit down to chat, then have a meal, give a gift, and change your way of addressing them to call them mom and dad. The distribution of gift money is very complicated.

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